|Connor sleeping in a shopping cart|
And yes, it was just as glorious as it sounds—I hit six stores in less than two hours, I forgot that was even possible, it was like seeing a unicorn right there at the mall.
And all this unbridled joy was after yesterday when I took Connor grocery shopping and he fell asleep in the cart, see the pic and love it because it was just too cute. I thought I hit the jackpot then, so today was just unreal.
OK onto the point of today's blog...
Whenever I reached a new place, I happened to park next to a mom with one or two little kids. And each time I heard the same speech that I give my own boys when we pull up to a store, “hold my hand, this is a parking lot, yes, if you are good in the store you can get a ____.” We usually offer an extra 10 minutes of TV or iPad play or even a sweet, like a cookie or a couple of M&MS. Today there was some of that, but there was also some “bigger prizes” being offered and you knew that mom was at the end of her rope.
I smiled at one woman and her daughter after she delivered “the speech” to her little lady and she said, “it’s awful what we have to do.”
I couldn’t shake that comment, especially after I saw MANY moms doing the same thing—bribing their kids to be good. And yes, I know that kids “should” be well behaved in public—and at home—and there shouldn’t be the need for the bribe at all. But let’s be real, they need a little incentive at times—just like adults.
So, you know what? No, I don’t think a little bit of bribery is all that bad. I wonder if it can actually be a way to teach our children that in order to get “rewarded” we must present ourselves in a certain manner, while also illustrating to them that sometimes it takes “work” to get the prize. It's lesson for life, not a way to get through the store faster. You can’t be loud and crazy or throw a temper tantrum when your computer crashes in the office, you need to work hard, help your team and be respectful of your boss in order to earn a promotion at your job.
So to that woman in the parking lot: Don’t feel bad about offering your daughter a treat in exchange for good behavior—feeling good knowing you are teaching her that to get a reward, she has to earn it.
With that, I am going to reward myself for this fabulous post with an ice coffee.